We here at Healthy Moms have been watching our community grow over the years with delight. There’s such a wide range of moms who take part in our discussions, but if there’s one thing we all have in c...
Every household has their own rules of the table.
“No chewing with your mouth open.”
“Keep your elbows off the table.”
“Ask to be excused.”
But do you have any rules when it comes to food?
Here are my...
Lana Mamisashvili works with people whose lives are influenced by depression, anxiety, anger, interpersonal conflict, a sense of being unfulfilled, and fear that often underlies many of these issues.
She had been involved in the mental health field (perinatal depression and anxiety, trauma, and attachment) as a researcher for 12 years when Lana decided that she wanted to share the knowledge she acquired by becoming a therapist and combining scientific research background with therapeutic work.
Lana earned a MSW degree at the University of Toronto. Lana's passion lied in helping people explore what is keeping them "stuck," and together, figuring out ways to move through the challenges toward their desired lives.
Holiday season is a time for celebration for most, but can be a time many of us experience sadness, stress, anxiety, fatigue, and even depression – especially, if we don’t have extended family or many friends.
Here are a few things you can do to help with the holiday blues:
No matter how many times I show moms the research-based evidence that indicates it is not how much time we spend with our kids, but how we spend it, mom guilt abounds. It’s the quality not the quantity that matters, though. Children are resilient and as long as we address the meltdown (whether it’s ours or our kids’) most of the time and as soon as possible, they’ll be fine. We’re not scarring them for life. This includes us losing our temper, not knowing what to do, regretting our decisions, saying one thing and doing another, breaking our promises, and all the other scenarios you can imagine.
October 15th was Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Day. One in five pregnancies end in miscarriage, and six infants in 1000 is stillborn. I wanted to write for those who have experienced a perinatal loss or know someone who has. Whether you have other children or had a subsequent successful pregnancy, the sense of loss does not go away – you cannot get past it, only through it.
Unfortunately, this experience of loss tends to be medicalized in our society, often disregarding the emotional toll it has on a mom and her family. Doctors often try to normalize the loss as part of a normal process of trying to have a baby. While this can be true, it is no less difficult. As well, if it is not addressed and acknowledged in a way that is appropriate to each mother’s experience, this loss may become even more devastating and suffering more prolonged.
One of the areas we often struggle with is setting boundaries. This means saying "no" to certain people, demands, attitudes, and even circumstances. Even when something threatens to overwhelm us, we can still improve the situation by standing up for ourselves and saying “no, this is not ok with me!”
The implication isn’t that you are impolite, selfish, or not a nice person. Knowing how to set and maintain boundaries means understanding what you can and cannot handle.
We often find ourselves caught in ''thinking traps'' –ways of thinking that make it difficult for us to see different possibilities, alternative solutions to what we have in mind, based on our previous experiences. This is something we tend to do especially when we are stressed, angry or irritable. To learn how to step outside of these traps, it is important to be able to identify when we are in them. This helps us see them for what they are – thinking patterns that have been honed for years or decades that box us in and limit our capacity to see things from any other perspective. Here are six common traps we find ourselves in:
Jumping to conclusions:
We interpret things negatively when there are no facts to support our conclusion. This trap can take two forms: mind reading and fortune telling.