It gets stuffed with books, squished at the bottom of a locker, thrown in the corner of a room and buried under dirty laundry. Your backpack gets abused - but does it abuse you?
Healthy Moms Blog
In the past three years, five months and 12 days, only two bits of parenting advice have penetrated the baby brain fog deeply enough to embed themselves permanently into my memory. The first came from Aviva Allen, who described the division of nutritional labour in the home by explaining that it was my responsibility to give my child healthy food, but that it was his responsibility to eat it. The second, I got recently from my Peaceful Parenting coach Sarah Rosensweet, who told me quite firmly that—despite the fact that it’s not fair that he keeps insisting that he loves daddy better—my toddler isn’t responsible for my feelings.
This can often be a stressful time of the year, with work parties, family gathering obligations, and endless amounts of food to make and eat! Schedules and routines often get thrown out the window. That's ok. I’m here to tell you how to enjoy the holidays while ensuring that your sleep schedule doesn’t get off track.
No matter how many times I show moms the research-based evidence that indicates it is not how much time we spend with our kids, but how we spend it, mom guilt abounds. It’s the quality not the quantity that matters, though. Children are resilient and as long as we address the meltdown (whether it’s ours or our kids’) most of the time and as soon as possible, they’ll be fine. We’re not scarring them for life. This includes us losing our temper, not knowing what to do, regretting our decisions, saying one thing and doing another, breaking our promises, and all the other scenarios you can imagine.
At my 30 weeks prenatal appointment, I confided in my nurse that for the last two weeks I couldn’t seem to control my bladder anymore and kept having accidents! We laughed over pregnancy woes and discussed kegel exercises. I then causally admitted that in my desperation, I Googled my symptoms and learned about women whose waters broke early in their pregnancies. I laughed nervously because that wasn’t happening to me, right?